Relationship problem? Tried Everything? What to Do?

If you don’t like the weather in New England, just wait a minute. –Mark Twain

When your relationship is less than wonderful, and you have run through your usual repertoire, here’s the plan: 1. Don’t react; Act. 2) Listen actively. 3) Do something surprising. 4. Change the context. It works with 3-month-olds, and it works with adults. Here’s my son Peter showing us how it’s done.

Actually, don’t wait till you’ve tried everything. Do it right up front, like this: Continue reading

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What are the Key Ingredients for a Child’s Success?

Five-year-old Sokha, a Cambodian orphan adopted by a white couple, came into our kindergarten. He immediately showed himself to be a happy, gregarious, curious boy.

But Sokha engaged with others in ways they were not used to.  Continue reading

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Another Problem with Most SEL

Another problem with SEL(“Social-Emotional-Learning”) programs is that they treat children as if they are social-emotional novices. Continue reading

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Why Many SEL Programs Fail

“Although ‘Social-Emotional-Learning may be intended to empower students, many elementary students in these programs learn to equate leadership with obedience.” Continue reading

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Social-Emotional-Cognitive Learning

SEL (“Social-Emotional Learning”) has become popular, but we must go deeper. Education occurs only when social-emotional and cognitive learning occur at the same time. Academics must occur in the context of SEC learning.  Continue reading

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