Parent Is Not a Verb

by Rick on September 12, 2020

You do not have to follow
The “10 rules for good parenting,”
Or take the twelve good parenting tips,
Or even read
Good Parenting Guide to Bringing out the Best in your Child.
Just because you found it all on google doesn’t mean it’s true.

Don’t try to be an “involved parent,”
Or an expert on stages of development
Or the parent who calls the shots
Or the parent who makes them do chores

You ONLY have to:
Delight in their genius—
Love their agency—
Say “No’ where needed,
Tell the truth,
Be yourself,
And be the parent.



{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Vanessa Wassenar September 12, 2020 at 1:09 pm

I feel as though schools are being expected to be the parent, home, church/religious or spiritual “home,” and much more than what is realistic or makes sense. I feel for teachers just as I feel for police who should not be defunded but should be able to do their jobs and have society do its job.
thanks as always for your wonderful blogs.

Nicholas Thacher September 12, 2020 at 3:55 pm

Or, if you’re still feeling defensive and/or uncertain, recall the reassuring, empowering opening line in Dr. Spock’s (That’s Benjamin Spock, by the way) book advising new parents about babies and child care: “You already know more than you think you know.”

Trust your gut, not the Internet.

Rick Armstrong September 17, 2020 at 5:33 pm

Your concluding 6-item DO list is so:
clear; succinct; positive, complete.
Though life is not always ‘simple’, Keep it Simple is still a guide for non-simple situations — for teachers as well as parents.

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