Making Conflict Creative

We see through a glass darkly; but then face to face.—Corinthians 13:12

Many years ago, I faced the challenge of “doing something about” a noxious employee who worked in the development office. Continue reading

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Spelling Bee by Faith Shearin

Spelling Bee
by Faith Shearin

In the spelling bee my daughter wore a good
brown dress and kept her hands folded.
There were twelve children speaking

into a microphone that was taller than
they were. Each time it was her turn
I could barely look. It wasn’t that I wanted

her to win but I hoped she would be
happy with herself. The words were too hard
for me; I would have missed chemical,

thermos, and dessert. Each time she spelled
one correctly my heart became a bird.
She once fluttered so restlessly beneath

my skin and, on the morning of her arrival,
her little red hands held nothing.
Her life since has been a surprise: she can

sew; she can draw; she can read. She hates
raisins but loves science. All the parents
must feel this, watching from the cheap

folding chairs. Somewhere inside them
love took shape and now
it stands at the microphone, spelling.

“Spelling Bee” by Faith Shearin from Moving the Piano. © Stephen F. Austin State University Press, 2011.

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Being Right & Being Wrong: Two Sides of the Stupid Coin

You can either be right, or be in a relationship; not both. —Katherine Schulz (Being Wrong, 2010)

FIfth-grade teacher Beverly Button, was famous for being “strong on discipline.” The culture of the school put a high priority on “discipline,” and so she was considered to be one of the best teachers. Continue reading

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How the College Scandal Could be a Game Changer

College Scandal! “I’m shocked! Shocked! There’s [bribery] going on in here.”
Every year at this time, as our 18-year-olds are getting their college acceptances, there is a spate of articles about the imperfections in the college admission process in America. Continue reading

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Relationship problem? Tried Everything? What to Do?

If you don’t like the weather in New England, just wait a minute. –Mark Twain

When your relationship is less than wonderful, and you have run through your usual repertoire, here’s the plan: 1. Don’t react; Act. 2) Listen actively. 3) Do something surprising. 4. Change the context. It works with 3-month-olds, and it works with adults. Here’s my son Peter showing us how it’s done.

Actually, don’t wait till you’ve tried everything. Do it right up front, like this: Continue reading

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